Five Practices To AVOID While On a Date.
1. Competitive activity. A Date isn't the time to compare yourself, your Ex-, your failures, with his or hers.
2. Skill. Having to prove your skill at being an enjoyable partner is too much work and it will manifest.
3. Chance. Remember you chose to go on this date. Ultimately, chance is not a factor.
4. Endurance. A date isn't a competition to find out who will last the longest in being entertaining or amusing.
5. Rules. Rigid rules are a choking point for new possibilities.
Five Things To DO When Dating.
1. Play. Though many of these may sound basic, I would bet many of you do not look at dating as a playful exercise. Remember when you were the carefree child playing in the sand? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Simply muddy fun! Find ways to go into your date with having fun as a first priority. Find fun even if the person on the other side of the table is a serious type. Make it a game to find fun. You do not need to see him or her again if they can't be easy-going and have fun. Using the Law of Attraction is hugely powerful for Relationships Attraction, and is not difficult to understand.
2. Laugh. A close relative of Play, laughing is the most infectious way to release happiness. Before heading out on a date, most importantly, the first date, tell yourself that you'll meaningfully look for a reason to feel good and laugh. Smile as much as possible. At the waitress or waiter, at the hostess. Simply smile for no reason.
3. Listen. This is one of the most significant ways to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your brain and tune in to the things the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be desiring to chime in for a variety of reasons. You don't like the manner in which he eats his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distracting from the main purpose. Just realize you are being distracted and pull yourself back into the present. To reiterate, you do not need to see them again if you don't desire to. This is an important practice, however, and it's an intimacy builder. You will want to adopt this practice in your extended relationship, so why not get your practice in now. Just so you know, you don't need to listen just in the dating realm. You can attract your own Law of Attraction Love today and increase your level of creative energy!
4. Eye Contact. Don't simply make eye contact and bob your head. Engage in deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful communication of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you. If you need the help of a Law of Attraction Coach, by all means get support! Using an independent listener to talk to can help you move away from old patterns much more quickly.
5. Communicate. When it is your time to speak, strive for clarity and being heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven't interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption happens, ask for the same manners. You can be easy-going and kind about this without causing it to be a problem. Simply kindly ask for what you'd like. Feeling confident in this takes a lot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.
It does not matter if you are twenty-five or seventy-five in the dating scene - simply enjoy life - if viewed as a fun game, one in which there are no losers, your date will go much more smoothly for everyone.
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